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Do i deserve to choose?

by ConFuseDnStresSed05 in

i'm 18, my whole life i've been fed a lie that my whole family believes is true, they've done nothing but try to help me in what ever ways their religion will allow them, and now wfter being sheltered, confused, but taken care of physically and what my mother thinks is spiritually i'm ready to leave it all ebhind, friends, family and more because now i'm of age and can see the numerous flaws and problems in the orginization.

do i deserve to choose what to do.

i'm between a rock and a hardplace.

Nico Maye

you deserve to be free and to choose what you do and do not believe in. it breaks my heart because i remember being in your place. just remember that you are not a bad person for wanting to be you. it is your family's loss if they cut off ties with you. they are the ones doing it not you so you should feel no guilt. it will be hard, but you deserve to be free.

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The most condescending thing said to you by the (sm)elders.

by diamondblue1974 in

i wasnt the most academic of children although i had some capability but i could read quite well by the time i was 4 years old at least for my age; i have always read as a child and still read now as an adult both professionally (research) and for pleasure.

i have always been able to write too...and pretty much advanced as well as my peers did in school...perhaps i am lucky, i certainly feel like i am when illiteracy amongst adults and children is rife at present...however.. i remember when i was 16 the wts in the uk were pushing through a scheme teaching those who were not as able to read and write...and an elder in the hall made a point of coming to me and suggesting that i should actually attend the training!!

!....i explained that i could read and write well enough and didnt need to be taught basic literacy... he said that i might learn something new and should respect jehovahs order of things and show appreciation...i did decline his kind offer rather abruptly....but wtf??

Nico Maye

It was acually when i phoned the elder that had put me through hell and demanded an apology from him that he said the most ass-en-i-ing thing i had ever heard. This is a rather long story, but the main points of the story are my dad was dying of cancer and my mom was having a breakdown and i was trying to hold my little brother together while meanwhile feeling super suicidal and depressed. Well, it seems i had written some letters to a friend that included swearing and boy talk (i was sixteen, i think this is fairly normal) and they had been found by her crazy step father. He took them to the elders, and of course i had an elders meeting and everything was solved ( i wore all black and my dad answered most of the questions). So my family and I pass this stress. Then another call...seems my hair is "too bright". I had dyed it red and some JW kids reported me to the elders. My mother is lectured and i am lectured and my dad and i fight. Then they call again, seems i'm wearing glitter and that is also wrong. Dad and i fight about glitter. I guess Jehovah hates glitter. Then yet another call about these god damned notes i wrote my buddy. They want my parents to see them. My parents are already stressed, now even angrier at me for not writing the letter but writing them to this girl who has a crazy father. My dad is flipping out, which is terrible when you are trying to fight cancer. I was crying, which is terrible when you want to die, my mom was fighting, my brothers are crying. No one called to see what they could do, they called to cause unnecessary stress on my family that was ripping apart at the seems. My dad died not long after and we weren't talking. He had acually asked me to leave the home because of the stress. I was a teenager. I was trying to make a stand in the world and I was a really good witness other than the fact i wore glitter and dyed my hair red.

When i asked the elder why he had done what he did he said he was doing it for my family. He was doing it to stop the stress "i was causing"

When i told him that my parents were the ones that let me do it and that they were the ones that saw me everyday when i left for school everyday, he had nothing to say. It was the idiots in my small town congregation that had the issues. it was them who were upset by my "behavior?"

anyways i didn't end up getting an apology but that elders family soon fell apart. His son slept with his brothers wife and they were disfellowshipped. Hahahahah!! i can't say i didn't laugh and laugh and laugh

Nico

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why do people try so hard to impress him?

can he get our dead relatives out of purgatory?

Nico Maye

seems elders love commenting on hair, clothes, and what is right and what is wrong. where does it say in the bible that your hair and clothes must be a certain way.?

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Do i deserve to choose?

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